As February comes to an end and the overly commercialised Saint Valentines day is over for another year I’ve begun thinking about the term love.
Now over recent years, I’ve found myself become a hopeless romantic at the thought of sharing a special bond with someone and I do enjoy watching happy couples prance around too however I believe that there are limitations when being involved in a relationship that needs to be established.
Firstly, what is the big deal with letting the whole world know your relationship status from the get-go? A relationship is between two people and I firmly advocate that the beginning stages remain private while you and your other half get to know each other from beyond the friendship stage. I once thought that letting everyone know who you was with meant your relationship was stronger than those who kept it quiet – WRONG! If you have a loyal guy (or girl) who you trust then you don’t need to wear a badge of their face to show everyone.
Don’t get me wrong now, this doesn’t mean you should be ashamed and hide your partner away at all times but when the time is right it will happen and he/she will announce you to the world but what is the rush for now? Enjoy YOUR time whilst you can.
This leads to my second point when the shit hits the fan everyone will know. It’s part of a humiliating social circle seen online. I’ve once been a victim of this and looking back see how embarrassing and stupid it is, if you have a problem with how your partner is acting talk to them not to your followers on Twitter or the bored baby mums on Facebook who are preeing the homepage whilst Jeremy Kyle is on a break. Keep certain things to yourself and don’t degrade your relationship. If you’re not happy with the things your other half says or is treating you – pick up a phone! Don’t entertain others at the cost of your relationship because you will be the laughing stock.
Not everyone will wish good on your relationship. I have opinions on couples that may not necessarily be valid as I believe some people do not deserve to be in a relationship or deserve their partners through their needy and selfish acts. This is a trait in both males and females… How can you expect someone to love you if you don’t even love yourself? How will someone ever trust you if you act insecure and desperate all the time?
Moving on: pictures and moist comments – this is mostly for people who don’t know how to hold down a relationship. Please please pleaseeeee stop throwing around the word ‘love’ alongside moist comments of ‘your day with your babes’ followed by the mediocre activity… I couldn’t care what you and your partner ate for lunch and I sure as hell don’t need to see pictures of you 24/7. Now like I said if you’re in a stable relationship [preferably 6 months minimum] then this doesn’t really apply to you but you relationship newbies should stop worrying about the ‘image’ you’re pursuing to people online that you don’t know and worry more about looking after your partner and yourself than the likes you could potentially get from Instagram.